I’m a queer girl, and in my school we have no queer sex ed….

…..During sex/sexual activities, would my girlfriend and/or I have to wear protection against STIs?

Thanks for asking this!

Lets talk a little bit about STIsSTIs can be a very real risk for people if they are engaging in certain types of sexual contact. It’s good to know that when it comes to STIs they are transmitted through..

  • Sexual Fluids (Semen and Vaginal fluids)
  • Skin to skin contact (or genital to genital contact)
  • Breast milk
  • Vaginal birth

In order for someone to contract an STI, they would need to engage in sexual activity with a person who already has an STI in which one or more of these modes would come into play.

So, STIs are a risk regardless of what kind of sex is occurring. Here are some ways to help reduce the risk:

If people are engaging in digital (or finger) play, they can use gloves to help reduce the risk of any infections.

Using dental dams during oral sex on either the vagina or anus can help reduce the risk of STIs being transmitted to and from the mouth and throat. If people don’t have access to dental dams, they can cut a condom open flat and it’s just as effective.

If sex toys are being used, an option is to put condoms on the sex toy and change the condoms in between partners and/or in between each sexual activity.  Or, thoroughly washing the sex toy in between.

Also as a general rule, someone should never reuse a barrier method like a glove, dental dam, or condom.

Lastly, its a good idea for everyone involved to get tested. Not all STIs show symptoms, so getting tested can help partners be on the same page, and know what their risk is. Many partners come in together to get tested!

If you want to make an appointment to get tested, give us a call at 303-442-5160. You can also walk in to pick up condoms, lube, and dental dams.