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I am a 14 year old male. I am gay, but I have told no one….

…I’m extremely scared to tell my parents or friends, in fear of rejection, or even being kicked out of the house, verbal abuse, etc. I am also wanting to create something safe for my body that I can use for anal masturbation, but I’m also worried about accidentally harming myself. I’ve lied on medical papers, marking them to say I’m straight in fear of my parents finding out I’m gay. What should I do?

 

Thank you for asking this. We want to address all of your questions one by one.

First, know that you are absolutely not the only person dealing with this. Also, know there is nothing wrong with your sexuality. Who we like/are attracted to is part of what makes us who we are, and that is great!

We understand that dealing with sexuality can feel scary and intimidating, especially if you feel like you have no one you can talk to.  Try thinking about someone you could confide in or talk to, someone you can trust.  That could be a friend, a trusted adult, or a sibling, etc. Try talking to that trusted person and see how it feels. This may give you confidence to talk to others.  It is likely that the people who love you like your friends and family want what is best for you!  We do understand however, that in some cases, a person may not feel safe telling information like this to certain people.  If this is the case, perhaps consider telling a counselor, prevention interventionist, or a teacher at your school.  Those adults are there to help and support you.

If you live in the Boulder area, there is an organization called OASOS, they are a support group for LGBTQI youth.  You can find more information about them at https://www.bouldercounty.org/families/lgbtiq/oasos/ or call them at 303-579-2676.

If you don’t live in the Boulder area, this is another great resource: : https://www.glaad.org/resourcelist

If your school has a GSA (Gay straight alliance) perhaps reach out to people in that group to see how you can get support. Just know that there are people out there to help and support you.

In terms of when you visit the doctor, it is important to be honest on medical history forms.  The reason that these forms ask for sexuality information is just to better serve you and take care of you.  If you live in Colorado, it is a law that teens can access sexual health services without the permission/notification of their parent/guardian. Alternatively, even if your parent/guardian is present, you have the right to keep your medical information just between you and your doctor.  If you do not live in Colorado, you can visit https://sexetc.org/ to find out your rights in your own state.

Regarding masturbation, it is completely healthy for people to explore masturbation. As long as it is not hurting you or anyone else and it is not inferring with other aspects of your life, it can be a healthy activity that is low risk for things like sexually transmitted infections.  It is important to know that you should not put just any items into the anus. There are sex toys that are designed specifically for anal play, and if someone wants to use a sex toy it is important to use these. This is because anal sex toys have a flared base, and that is important because the muscles in the anus squeeze involuntarily, which can pull objects into the anus. So if someone uses an item that does not have a flared base, it could potentially end with a trip to the doctor to have it removed.

If someone does not have access to sex toys, they could start with using things like fingers. Finger stimulation can potentially provide plenty of pleasure, but make sure to wash your hands, and use plenty of lubrication (the anus does not self-lubricate).  You can buy lubrication over the counter, or usually can get some for free at health clinics.  A person should start slow, and can add more fingers if they want to.  They may want to make sure to trim their nails, and wear gloves or a condom on their fingers to prevent any infections or tears.

If you do live in Boulder and want to make an appointment at our Teen Clinic to further discuss any of these things you can call us at 303-442-5160, or you can walk in to pick up things like condoms or lubrication.

Please know you are not the first person to ask these questions, and you will not be the last! We hope this has helped.

What steps should a woman take before having anal sex?

Good question!

Condoms should be used when having anal sex  to help reduce the risk of STIs. The anus does not self lubricate so micro tears can occur easily in the anus which can cause a higher risk for STI transmission. Using condoms also helps reduce the risk of pregnancy.  While anal sex itself isn’t doesn’t cause a risk for pregnancy, if any semen made contact with the vagina, or leaked from the anus to the vaginal opening it could cause a risk for pregnancy.

It is important to use lubrication when having anal sex. Like we previously mentioned, the anus does not self lubricate and lubrication will help reduce the risk of the condom breaking, micro tears, and may make things more comfortable. It is important to use water based lubrication with condoms. Any lubrication with oil (lotion, vaseline, etc) can break down the material of the condom making it ineffective.

You could also start slow by using fingers or toys first before engaging in anal sex to see what everyone is comfortable with. Communicate with partner(s) if anything doesn’t feel good or is uncomfortable, this should be communicated and sexual contact should stop.

I had anal sex with my boyfriend…..

……and he came inside there. He kept thrusting and he accidentally slipped inside my vagina….is there anyway I could get pregnant?

 

Pregnancy is possible whenever semen enters the vagina. If semen accidentally got into the vagina during anal sex, then yes, there would be a risk for pregnancy. Or, if some of the ejaculate leaked from the anus to the vaginal opening, there would be a risk of pregnancy.

If someone is using a form of birth control correctly, however, they are 99% protected from pregnancy. It would be a good idea to consider starting a form of birth control when engaging in sexual activity.

It is important to know that unprotected anal sex is a high risk activity for STI transmission. This is because the lining of the anus is very fragile and does not self lubricate. This makes it easier for what are called micro tears to occur during intercourse. These micro tears are small and someone may not feel them or know they are happening. Micro tears can create a direct line to someones blood, and can cause STI transmission.

It would be a good idea to use condoms during anal sex to reduce the risk of STI transmission.  Using lubrication  is also a good idea because lubrication helps reduce the risk of micro tears, and will help reduce the risk of the condom breaking.  A person should use water based lubrication when using latex condoms.  Oil based lubrication (like Vaseline, lotions, etc) will break down the material in the condom.

If you  want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic give us a call at 303-442-5160

 

My boyfriend wants to have unprotected anal …

…. and I’m down with this but where we are going I wont be able to use the bathroom afterwards and I’m really scared I’ll get pregnant. What do I do?

Pregnancy is possible whenever semen enters the vagina. If semen accidentally got into the vagina during anal sex, then yes, there would be a risk for pregnancy. Or, if some of the ejaculate leaked from the anus to the vaginal opening, there would be a risk of pregnancy.

If someone is using a form of birth control correctly, however, they are 99% protected from pregnancy. It would be a good idea to consider starting a form of birth control when engaging in sexual activity.

It is important to know that unprotected anal sex is a high risk activity for STI transmission. This is because the lining of the anus is very fragile and does not self lubricate. This makes it easier for what are called micro tears to occur during intercourse. These micro tears are small and someone may not feel them or know they are happening. Micro tears can create a direct line to someones blood, and can cause STI transmission.

It would be a good idea to use condoms during anal sex to reduce the risk of STI transmission.  Using lubrication  is also a good idea because lubrication helps reduce the risk of micro tears, and will help reduce the risk of the condom breaking.  A person should use water based lubrication when using latex condoms.  Oil based lubrication (like Vaseline, lotions, etc) will break down the material in the condom.

Also, while this may be something your partner wants to do, if you don’t feel comfortable having unprotected anal sex you should communicate this with your partner and why it concerns you.  No one should ever do anything they aren’t fully comfortable with.

If you  want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic give us a call at 303-442-5160

 

Can anal sex cause pregnancy?….

……. and having unprotected anal sex with a woman that is using birth control method, could pregnancy happen?

Great question!

Pregnancy is possible whenever semen enters the vagina. If semen accidentally got into the vagina during anal sex, then yes, there would be a risk for pregnancy. Or, if some of the ejaculate leaked from the anus to the vaginal opening, there would be a risk of pregnancy.

If someone is using their birth control correctly, however, they are 99% protected from pregnancy.

But it is important to know that unprotected anal sex is a high risk activity for STI transmission. This is because the lining of the anus is very fragile and does not self lubricate. This makes it easier for what are called micro tears to occur during intercourse. These micro tears are small and someone may not feel them or know they are happening. Micro tears can create a direct line to someones blood, and can cause STI transmission.

It would be a good idea to use condoms during anal sex to reduce the risk of STI transmission.  Using lubrication  is also a good idea because lubrication helps reduce the risk of micro tears, and will help reduce the risk of the condom breaking.  A person should use water based lubrication when using latex condoms.  Oil based lubrication (like Vaseline, lotions, etc) will break down the material in the condom.

If you have any more questions or want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic give us a call at 303-442-5160

Me and my boyfriend have been having anal sex,,,,

…….and every time we finish I notice his come comes out my vagina. Can I get pregnant like this ?

Pregnancy is possible whenever semen enters the vagina. If semen accidentally got into the vagina during anal sex, then yes, there would be a risk for pregnancy. Or, if some of the ejaculate leaked from the anus to the vaginal opening, there would be a risk of pregnancy.

Unprotected anal sex is a high risk activity for STI transmission. This is because the lining of the anus is very fragile and does not self lubricate.  This makes it easier for what are called micro tears to occur during intercourse. These micro tears are small and someone may not feel them or know they are happening.  Micro tears can create a direct line to someones blood, and can cause STI transmission.

It would be a good idea to use condoms during anal sex to reduce the risk of STI transmission.  Using lubrication  is also a good idea because lubrication helps reduce the risk of micro tears, and will help reduce the risk of the condom breaking.  A person should use water based lubrication when using latex condoms.  Oil based lubrication (like Vaseline, lotions, etc) will break down the material in the condom.

It would also be a good idea to consider a form of birth control. Most methods can be up to 99% effective when used correctly

If you have any more questions or want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic give us a call at 303-442-5160

I had unprotected anal sex and then got my period 3 days later……

…..Is there any way I could be pregnant?

Pregnancy is possible whenever semen enters the vagina. If semen accidentally got into the vagina during anal sex, then yes, there would be a risk for pregnancy. Or, if some of the ejaculate leaked from the anus to the vaginal opening, there would be a risk of pregnancy.

Unprotected anal sex is a high risk activity for STI transmission. This is because the lining of the anus is very fragile and does not self lubricate.  This makes it easier for what are called micro tears to occur during intercourse. These micro tears are small and someone may not feel them or know they are happening.  Micro tears can create a direct line to someones blood, and can cause STI transmission.

It would be a good idea to use condoms during anal sex to reduce the risk of STI transmission.  Using lubrication  is also a good idea because lubrication helps reduce the risk of micro tears, and will help reduce the risk of the condom breaking.  A person should use water based lubrication when using latex condoms.  Oil based lubrication (like Vaseline, lotions, etc) will break down the material in the condom.

It would also be a good idea to consider a form of birth control. Most methods can be up to 99% effective when used correctly

If you have any more questions or want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic give us a call at 303-442-5160

I had anal and he came inside….

….. then when he pulled out it touched my front but only for a second and after that I went straight to the bathroom and wiped it off, could I be pregnant?

Pregnancy is possible whenever semen enters the vagina. If semen accidentally got into the vagina during anal sex, then yes, there would be a risk for pregnancy. Or, if some of the ejaculate leaked from the anus to the vaginal opening, there would be a risk of pregnancy.

Unprotected anal sex is a high risk activity for STI transmission. This is because the lining of the anus is very fragile and does not self lubricate.  This makes it easier for what are called micro tears to occur during intercourse. These micro tears are small and someone may not feel them or know they are happening.  Micro tears can create a direct line to someones blood, and can cause STI transmission.

It would be a good idea to use condoms during anal sex to reduce the risk of STI transmission.  Using lubrication  is also a good idea because lubrication helps reduce the risk of micro tears, and will help reduce the risk of the condom breaking.  A person should use water based lubrication when using latex condoms.  Oil based lubrication (like Vaseline, lotions, etc) will break down the material in the condom.

It would also be a good idea to consider a form of birth control. Most methods can be up to 99% effective when used correctly

If you have any more questions or want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic give us a call at 303-442-5160

Would it be risky not to wear a condom during anal sex between 2 males?

Great question!

Unprotected anal sex is a high risk activity for STI transmission. This is because the lining of the anus is very fragile and does not self lubricate.  This makes it easier for what are called micro tears to occur during intercourse. These micro tears are small and someone may not feel them or know they are happening.  Micro tears can create a direct line to someones blood, and can cause STI transmission.

It would be a good idea to use condoms during anal sex to reduce the risk of STI transmission.  Using lubrication  is also a good idea because lubrication helps reduce the risk of mico tears, and will help reduce the risk of the condom breaking.  A person should use water based lubrication when using latex condoms.  Oil based lubrication (like Vaseline, lotions, etc) will break down the material in the condom.

If you have any more questions or want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic give us a call at 303-442-5160

What would happen if I have anal sex with a condom?…. ……

……Can I still get pregnant even if the condom is placed on correctly?

Pregnancy is possible whenever semen enters the vagina. If semen accidentally got into the vagina during anal sex, then yes, there would be a risk for pregnancy. Or, if some of the ejaculate leaked from the anus to the vaginal opening, you could be at risk of pregnancy.

Remember, condoms can reduce the risk of STIs and pregnancy up to 98% when used correctly, so it is definitely a good idea to use a condom during anal sex.

If you have any more questions, feel free to give our Teen clinic a call! 303-442-5160