I have difficulty getting “wet” even after foreplay with my boyfriend and I have noticed it also happens when masturbating but it wasn’t always like that is there something wrong? ……..

……My boyfriend feels like it is his fault or that I’m not attracted to him but that’s not the case I feel like something is wrong with me

 

During sexual activity it is important for both partners to want to engage in all activities. With arousal, lubrication and the loosening of the vaginal muscles occur. Without this, sex can feel painful or uncomfortable. It is important to talk about your level of comfort before engaging in sexual contact, that way you and your partner can communicate what is comfortable and pleasurable.

Lubrication is important during sexual contact as well. Although vaginas and penis’ are self-lubricating organs, often times enough lubrication is not produced. Some bodies self-lubricate quite a bit; some don’t at all!  Even if your body does self-lubricate, it’s great to have a bottle of water-based lube on hand just in case things become dry and uncomfortable. You can use water-based lube during sex with your partner, or alone during masturbation as well.

If you continue to feel discomfort, you can always make an appointment at Teen Clinic to talk to a medical professional. Our services at Teen Clinic are confidential, and are free or at a low cost. Our number is 303-442-5160