Me and my boyfriend recently started having sex and I’m very curious about something. Will I orgasm just with him using his penis or should I

… touch my clitoris while we’re having sex? I don’t know because I’ve never had an orgasm before. Please help!

Establishing a sexual relationship where both people involved are experiencing the same level of pleasure can be difficult. First and foremost, communication between yourself and your partner is key.

You might want to ask yourself a few questions about how you’re feeling about your sexuality and your connection with your partner to better understand how you can experience the most pleasure. Are you comfortable with you partner? Can you communicate with your partner? Do you feel safe with your partner? All of these questions and more can influence your sexual experience. Being sexually active can be about a lot more than just your physical body.

As far as the anatomy side of things go, many people with vaginas do not climax during penile-vaginal intercourse. The vaginal canal actually has very few nerve endings. The clitoris, however, has as many nerve endings as a penis. In order to orgasm, you need to find out what works for your body. Some people have no problem having an orgasm through penile-vaginal sex alone, but many people need additional stimulation. Since your clitoris — one of the most sensitive body parts on a person — is not located inside your vagina, reaching an orgasm through penile-vaginal intercourse can be difficult. Some people find that manually stimulating their clitoris during sex can help them orgasm. It can also help to become familiar with our body and your likes and dislikes with masturbation. Becoming comfortable and familiar with your own body through self-pleasure can help you communicate your needs to your partner. But in the end, your body is unique and you can decide what works best for you!