Archive for mutual masturbation (including fingering)

Does being fingered hurt?…

…I’ve been with this guy for 2 months now and we’re both ready

Everyone’s body & experience of pain is different. But it is important to know that sexual contact does not have to hurt.

Start slow & use lubrication if needed.  The body self lubricates naturally but using extra lubrication sometimes is needed! Lubrication helps reduce the risk of friction which can make things more comfortable.

Communication is also important.  If something ever doesn’t feel good or hurts during sexual contact this should be communicated and sexual contact should stop.

If you have more questions or want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic give us a call at 303-442-5160

Can I get an STI form being able to orally pleasure myself?

Lets talk a little bit about STIsSTIs can be a very real risk for people if they are engaging in certain types of sexual contact. It’s good to know that when it comes to STIs there are four modes of transmission.  They are…

  • Blood
  • Sexual Fluids (Semen and Vaginal fluids)
  • Skin to skin contact
  • And Mother to Child (Breastmilk and Vaginal Delivery)

In order for someone to contract an STI, they would need to engage in sexual activity with a person who already has an STI in which one or more of these modes would come into play.

Masturbation can be a safe way to explore your body and learn more about your sexual likes and dislikes.  Masturbation doesn’t come with a risk of STI transmission or pregnancy, and it doesn’t require the same communication skills as being sexually active with someone else. Self-masturbation can also help you figure out your sexual boundaries and preferences before you become sexually active with others. Masturbation also won’t damage or harm your body in any way.  You can not give yourself an STI from masturbation

In this situation however, if you happened to have Herpes type 1  (Herpes type 1 causes cold sores on the mouth and is not an STI) and had direct contact from your mouth to your genitals, it could potentially be transmitted from the mouth to the genital region.  If you do have Herpes type 1 and want to pleasure yourself with your mouth, just use a barrier method like a condom or a dental dam.

If you have more questions, give our Teen Clinic a call! 303-442-5160

Why does my vagina burn during and after sex? Is it my birth control pill?

If your vagina is feeling uncomfortable during and after sex, it may be due to several things.

If your partner is using their hands or fingers to sexually stimulate (or finger) you, it’s very important to emphasize hygiene. It’s important to make sure you or your partner are washing your hands with an unscented soap before sexual stimulation begins. If your partner did not wash their hands before touching your vagina, they may have had something on their hands that could irritate your vagina.

There’s also the possibility that the sex was too rough. It’s important to talk about your level of comfort before engaging in sexual intercourse. That way, you can tell your partner if they are working at a level that is both comfortable and pleasurable for you.

If the discomfort that you felt lasted for a few hours or up to a day after sex, it could have been some sort of vaginal irritation. But it is impossible to say for sure what could be going on over the internet.

If the discomfort lasted for longer than a few hours or a day, it could be a sign of infection and you would want to make an appointment with a medical professional. A medical professional would be able to tell you what might be going on with your body.

It is very unlikely that any vaginal discomfort (like a burning sensation) would be due to your birth control pill.

You can learn how to make an appointment here.  You can also take comfort in knowing that all of our clinicians here at Teen Clinic specialize in seeing teens and provide non-judgmental care! Give us a call with more questions! 303-442-5160.

I gave my boyfriend a hand job and he came. Then we had vaginal sex. Is pregnancy possible?

For pregnancy to happen, semen has to come into contact with the vagina in some way. This can include if someone has semen on their hands and touch your vagina, if someone ejaculates near your vagina, or if there’s semen on a penis before it enters your vagina.

So even if your boyfriend ejaculated outside of your body, by putting his penis inside of your body semen could’ve still been present- putting the risk of pregnancy on the table. Unless your boyfriend washed his penis or put on a condom before you had vaginal sex, pregnancy could happen.

It’s important to note that the only way to 100% prevent STIs and unplanned pregnancy is to practice abstinence. Abstinence is when someone refrains from oral, anal, or vaginal sex.

But there are ways to help reduce your risk of transmitting an STI or having an unplanned pregnancy.

Teen Clinic offers many forms of birth control. And although birth control methods can be up to 99% effective in preventing pregnancy, they are not effective in preventing STIs.  It’s a great idea to consider condoms  and dental dams when you’re engaging in sexual activities. If used correctly and consistently, condoms can help prevent pregnancy and STI transmission by up to 98%! Teen Clinic offers free condoms and dental dams.

If you have any questions or want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic, give us a call at 303-442-5160.

I’m 15 and my boyfriend fingered me and might’ve had a little bit of sperm on his fingers…

…My stomach hurts, I’m hungry a lot and I have sore breasts. I’m extremely stressed. Am I pregnant?

If semen was on your partner hands and could’ve come into contact with the vagina, pregnancy could be a possibility.  Risk of pregnancy is less likely this way, but can occur. Any time semen comes near the opening of the vagina, sperm can move into the vagina and cause a pregnancy.

When someone is using their hands or fingers to sexually stimulate someone, it’s very important to emphasize hygiene as well. It’s important to make sure you and your partner are washing your hands with an unscented soap before sexual stimulation begins. If you wash your hands before touching each other, you can wash away any sexual fluids that may have been present before- which can eliminate risk of STI transmission or pregnancy.

Someone’s period can actually fluctuate based on what’s going on in their life.  This means that stresssicknesschange in physical activity, or even worrying about being pregnant can make a period act differently.

The only way to know for sure it you are pregnant is to take a pregnancy test. If you take a pregnancy test 14 days after unprotected sex, you will receive an accurate result.

You can make an appointment at Teen Clinic to get a pregnancy test. Click here to see our hours at both our Boulder and Longmont locations. If you are under 18, all of our services are completely free! If you are 18 or 19, there may be a small fee based on your income. You can see our pricing table here.

My boyfriend and I mutually masturbated with each other and he ejaculated…

…but our hands went from our own genitals to each others’ genitals afterward. But his penis never went into my vagina. Is there any chance we could get an STI or become pregnant?

This is a great question. Let’s start off by saying that mutual masturbation can be a low-risk way to express sexuality. With that being said, there are precautions that someone would need to take in order to reduce their risk of STI transmission and/or pregnancy.

Any time someone comes into contact with one or more of the four modes of transmission, they can be at risk of STI (or sexually transmitted infection) transmission.  The four modes of transmission are…

  • Blood
  • Skin to skin contact
  • Sexual fluids (semen and vaginal fluids)
  • Mother to child (breastmilk and vaginal delivery)

In order for someone to contract an STI, they would need to engage in sexual activity with a person who already has an STI in which one or more of these modes would come into play.

Because you or your partner may have had sexual fluids on your hands before touching each others’ genitals, risk of STI transmission can be possible. Risk of transmission this way is less common, but can happen.

As far as pregnancy goes, if semen was on either person’s hands and could’ve come into contact with the vagina, pregnancy could be a possibility as well. Again, risk of pregnancy is less likely this way, but can occur. Any time semen comes near the opening of the vagina, sperm can move into the vagina and cause a pregnancy.

When someone is using their hands or fingers to sexually stimulate someone, it’s very important to emphasize hygiene as well. It’s important to make sure you and your partner are washing your hands with an unscented soap before sexual stimulation begins. If you wash your hands before touching each other, you can wash away any sexual fluids that may have been present before- which can eliminate risk of STI transmission or pregnancy.

Although STIs can be common, remember that they are preventable! Washing your hands, using condoms or dental dams, and using birth control can help drastically reduce your risk of STI  transmission or pregnancy.

Is fingering harmful for girls?

When using the fingers or hands, make sure that there are no open cuts or wounds on any people involved. A finger cot can even be used to provide another barrier of protection if there is any concern. With clean, wound free hands, the risk of STIs or pregnancy during fingering or manual stimulation is virtually eliminated.

With that being said, when someone is using their hands or fingers to sexually stimulate someone, it’s very important to emphasize hygiene. It’s important to make sure you or your partner are washing your hands with an unscented soap before sexual stimulation begins. If a partner does not wash their hands before using their fingers or hands, they may have something on their hands that could irritate the vagina.

When considering manual stimulation (or fingering), it’s very important for the partners involved to talk about the receiving partner’s level of comfort. That way, both partners can tell if they are working at a level that is both comfortable and pleasurable for everyone.

If you have more questions about sexual interactions and the best ways to stay healthy, give us a call! 303-442-5160.

My boyfriend fingered me a few times and ever since then my vagina has been feeling uncomfortable…

…He did it again and then we had sex. Now my vagina burns and when I use the toilet it’s very uncomfortable, even if I’m doing nothing apart from sitting down, inside my vagina hurts. What could be the problem and how should I solve it?

When someone is using their hands or fingers to sexually stimulate (or finger) someone, it’s very important to emphasize hygiene. It’s important to make sure you or your partner are washing your hands with an unscented soap before sexual stimulation begins. If your partner did not wash their hands before fingering you, they may have had something on their hands that could irritate your vagina.

There’s also the possibility that your partner was too rough while fingering you. It’s important to talk about your level of comfort before engaging in manual stimulation. That way, you can tell your partner if they are working at a level that is both comfortable and pleasurable for you.

If the discomfort that you felt lasted for a few hours or up to a day after your partner fingered you, it could have been some sort of vaginal irritation. But it is impossible to say for sure what could be going on over the internet.

If the discomfort lasted for longer than a few hours or a day, it could be a sign of infection and you would want to make an appointment with a medical professional. A medical professional would be able to tell you what might be going on with your body.

You can learn how to make an appointment here.  You can also take comfort in knowing that all of our clinicians here at Teen Clinic specialize in seeing teens and provide non-judgmental care! Give us a call with more questions! 303-442-5160.