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I’ve been having sex for almost a year now….

…..why does it hurt every time I start having sex? The first 2-3 minutes is so painful. Also after 20-25 minutes it starts hurting because of the friction.

Pain during sex can sometimes be a sign that there is not enough lubrication. Lubrication helps to make things more comfortable. It also helps reduce the risk of micro tears ( which are a way STIs are transmitted) and it reduces the risk of condoms breaking!

The vagina and penis self lubricate naturally, but sometimes extra lubrication is needed! If you are using extra lubrication, make sure to use water based lubrication with condoms. Anything with oil in it (lotion, Vaseline, etc) can actually break down the material of the condom. People can buy lubrication over the counter, and lots of health clinics ( like Teen Clinic) give out samples of lubrication for free.

It is also important to have open communication with your partner(s).  If something doesn’t feel good or is painful, sexual contact should stop, or it may be a good idea to try a different activity.  Make sure to let your partner(s) know what feels good and what does not.

If you continue to have  pain, it would be a good idea to see a medical provider. If you want to make an appointment with us you can call us at 303-442-5160

My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time but it wouldn’t go in easily and the condom broke out side of me but still almost in side of my vagina. He reassured me there was only pre-cum in the condom is there anyway I could get pregnant?

Pregnancy is possible whenever semen comes in contact with the vagina. If you are having unprotected sex, there is a risk for pregnancy.  The best way to avoid pregnancy is to use forms of birth control consistently and correctly.

So even if your partner didn’t ejaculate inside of your vagina, pre-ejaculate could still be present. Pre-ejaculate is a clear, sticky fluid released by the penis between the beginning of arousal and ejaculation. Although pre-ejaculate does not contain sperm when it is produced, it can pick up leftover sperm in the urethra. This means that pre-ejaculate can contain sperm when it leaves the body, creating a risk for pregnancy.

If you do not want pregnancy to occur, you could take an Emergency Contraception. You can take Emergency Contraception up to 5 days after having sex. It is more effective the sooner you take it.

It is also important to note that Lubrication is important during sexual contact as well. Although vaginas and penis’ are self-lubricating organs, often times enough lubrication is not produced. Some bodies self-lubricate quite a bit; some don’t at all!  Lubrication will lower the amount of friction during intercourse, reducing the chances that a barrier method (like a external or internal condom) will tear or that a mucus membrane (like the vagina, penis, or anus) will become irritated.

Even if your body does self-lubricate, it’s great to have a bottle of water-based lube on hand just in case things become dry and uncomfortable. It is also important to have good communication if things do begin to feel uncomfortable, ensuring that everyone involved feels safe and comfortable.

If you want to make an appointment at Teen Clinic to talk about Emergency Contraception, birth control, or have any other questions, call us at 303-442-5160

I tend to bleed after having sex. Is that normal or is there something going on that I should get checked out?

This is a hard question to answer without having a medical professional assess the symptoms in person, but we can try and help clear some things up for you.

Vaginal bleeding can be a sign of infection, whether a sexually transmitted infection or an organic infection, like yeast or bacterial vaginitis, or it can be something entirely different.

To start off, it’s important to note that someone’s period can actually fluctuate based on what’s going on in their life.  This means that stresssicknesschange in physical activity, or even worrying about being pregnant can make a period act differently- potentially causing abnormal bleeding.

While someone’s menstruation can happen on the traditional 28-day cycle, plenty do not.  It’s possible that you may have had an annovulatory cycle (that you did not release an egg this month).  A missed ovulation can translate to a missed or irregular period. While this can be healthy and normal, make an appointment if you find yourself worrying about your period. Our Teen Clinic practitioners can offer tips and strategies for regulating the period, and they’ll make sure you’re healthy.

It’s also possible that you were spotting a small amount before having sex and didn’t notice, but noticed afterwards because of the increase in sexual fluids.

Another possibility is that the sexual contact is too rough, or that enough lubrication was not used before hand. It’s important to talk about your level of comfort before engaging in sexual contact. That way, you can tell your partner if they are working at a level that is both comfortable and pleasurable for you.

Lubrication is important during sexual contact as well. Although vaginas and penis’ are self-lubricating organs, often times enough lubrication is not produced. Some bodies self-lubricate quite a bit; some don’t at all!  Lubrication will lower the  amount of friction during intercourse, reducing the chances that a barrier method (like a external or internal condom) will tear or that a mucus membrane (like the vagina, penis, or anus) will become irritated.

Even if your body does self-lubricate, it’s great to have a bottle of water-based lube on hand just in case things become dry and uncomfortable.

It’s also good to know that any time someone comes into contact with one or more of the four modes of transmission, they can be at risk of STI (or sexually transmitted infection) transmission.  The four modes of transmission are…

  • Blood
  • Skin to skin contact
  • Sexual fluids (semen and vaginal fluids)
  • Mother to child (breastmilk and vaginal delivery)

In order for someone to contract an STI, they would need to engage in sexual activity with a person who already has an STI in which one or more of these modes would come into play. Although STIs can be common, remember that they are preventable!

STIs can be transmitted through oral sex, anal sex, and vaginal sex. Many people think that with oral sex, there is little to no risk. But the fact is, you can get all STIs (except for pubic lice) when engaging in oral sex with someone who has the infection.

So remember to reduce your risk of STI transmission by using barrier methods and getting tested regularly!

The best thing for you to do is to make an appointment with a medical professional. They will be able to assess your symptoms and help you know for sure what is going on with your body. Teen Clinic offers confidential and low-cost services. Call us to make an appointment! 303-442-5160.