This is a really great question.
As far as the anatomy side of things go, many people with vaginas do not climax during penile-vaginal intercourse. The vaginal canal actually has very few nerve endings. The clitoris, however, has as many nerve endings as a penis. In order to orgasm, you need to find out what works for your body. Some people have no problem having an orgasm through penile-vaginal sex alone, but many people need additional stimulation. Since the clitoris — one of the most sensitive body parts on a person — is not located inside the vagina, reaching an orgasm through penile-vaginal intercourse can be difficult. Some people find that manually stimulating their clitoris during sex can help them orgasm. It can also help to become familiar with your body and your likes and dislikes with masturbation. Becoming comfortable and familiar with your own body through self-pleasure can help you communicate your needs to your partner. But in the end, your body is unique and you can decide what works best for you!
Communication is also a really important part of this. Everyone should always feel comfortable and safe during sexual contact. It’s also important to communicate with partner(s) what does and does not feel good. So having all of these conversation is a really important part of sexual contact!
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