Archive for vaginal sex

I’ve been having sex for almost a year now….

…..why does it hurt every time I start having sex? The first 2-3 minutes is so painful. Also after 20-25 minutes it starts hurting because of the friction.

Pain during sex can sometimes be a sign that there is not enough lubrication. Lubrication helps to make things more comfortable. It also helps reduce the risk of micro tears ( which are a way STIs are transmitted) and it reduces the risk of condoms breaking!

The vagina and penis self lubricate naturally, but sometimes extra lubrication is needed! If you are using extra lubrication, make sure to use water based lubrication with condoms. Anything with oil in it (lotion, Vaseline, etc) can actually break down the material of the condom. People can buy lubrication over the counter, and lots of health clinics ( like Teen Clinic) give out samples of lubrication for free.

It is also important to have open communication with your partner(s).  If something doesn’t feel good or is painful, sexual contact should stop, or it may be a good idea to try a different activity.  Make sure to let your partner(s) know what feels good and what does not.

If you continue to have  pain, it would be a good idea to see a medical provider. If you want to make an appointment with us you can call us at 303-442-5160

My friend says that the reason it hurts still when I have sex is because of an infection, apparently you can get this infection from having no sexual contact. Is this true?

It is hard to say exactly what is going on, but we can try and clear a few things up for you!

Pain during and after intercourse could be due to rough contact.  It is very important to communicate with partners.  If you are experiencing pain, it is important partners know that and stop. Pain could also be due to a lack of lubrication.  The vagina and penis self lubricate naturally, but sometimes extra lubrication is needed! Keep plenty of water-based lubricant on hand, especially when you’re using a condom.

Pain during intercourse can also be a sign of an infection. Some infections like yeast and Bacterial Vaginosis can occur organically from imbalances in the body (stress, diet, and clothing can all contribute to this). These are not STIs, but can be treated. Some of these infections may resolve themselves, but others require medical treatment.

If the pain continues it would be a good idea to see a medical professional to see exactly what is going on. You can do this at Teen Clinic. Give us a call at 303-442-5160 to make an appointment.

I recently had unprotected vaginal and anal sex for the first time. My partner pulled out of me a couple minutes after we started having vaginal intercourse and we began having anal shortly after…

…He came inside of me and I’m afraid it dripped down to my vaginal opening. I can’t afford Plan B, I’m 16 and a half. I know it wasn’t a very good idea in the first place, but is there anywhere I could possibly get a free Plan B?

In order for someone to get pregnant, semen needs to come into direct contact with the vagina. But even if someone does not ejaculate in the vagina, there is still a risk of pregnancy. If someone ejaculates on the outside of the body but still near the vagina, sperm can travel in to the vagina, putting them at risk of pregnancy.

If someone is having unprotected sex, but they don’t ejaculate in or near their  partner, pregnancy can still be possible as well because of something called pre-cum (or pre-ejaculate). Pre-cum is something that everyone with a penis does when arousal happens. Pre-cum—officially called pre-ejaculate—is a clear, sticky fluid released by the penis between the beginning of arousal and ejaculation.

Although pre-ejaculate does not contain sperm when it is produced, it can pick up leftover sperm in the urethra. This means that pre-ejaculate can contain sperm when it leaves the body, creating a risk for pregnancy.  Pre-ejaculate can also transmit STIs.

So even though your partner ejaculated during anal sex, if sperm traveled to the vagina opening, pregnancy could be possible. Or, if pre-ejaculate was released during vaginal sex, pregnancy could be a possibility as well.

But the good news is that Teen Clinic offers free or low-cost and confidential sexual health services. If you are 17 and under, all of our services are completely free!

Plan B may be anywhere from $30-60 at a pharmacy, but at Teen Clinic the most someone will pay for it is $3!

We have Teen Clinic at both our Boulder and Longmont locations. You can find our hours here, and find out more about pricing here.

The best way to avoid pregnancy is to use forms of birth control consistently and correctly. Teen Clinic offers all different types of birth control. Call us at 303-442-5160 if you have more questions or want to make an appointment!

I tend to bleed after having sex. Is that normal or is there something going on that I should get checked out?

This is a hard question to answer without having a medical professional assess the symptoms in person, but we can try and help clear some things up for you.

Vaginal bleeding can be a sign of infection, whether a sexually transmitted infection or an organic infection, like yeast or bacterial vaginitis, or it can be something entirely different.

To start off, it’s important to note that someone’s period can actually fluctuate based on what’s going on in their life.  This means that stresssicknesschange in physical activity, or even worrying about being pregnant can make a period act differently- potentially causing abnormal bleeding.

While someone’s menstruation can happen on the traditional 28-day cycle, plenty do not.  It’s possible that you may have had an annovulatory cycle (that you did not release an egg this month).  A missed ovulation can translate to a missed or irregular period. While this can be healthy and normal, make an appointment if you find yourself worrying about your period. Our Teen Clinic practitioners can offer tips and strategies for regulating the period, and they’ll make sure you’re healthy.

It’s also possible that you were spotting a small amount before having sex and didn’t notice, but noticed afterwards because of the increase in sexual fluids.

Another possibility is that the sexual contact is too rough, or that enough lubrication was not used before hand. It’s important to talk about your level of comfort before engaging in sexual contact. That way, you can tell your partner if they are working at a level that is both comfortable and pleasurable for you.

Lubrication is important during sexual contact as well. Although vaginas and penis’ are self-lubricating organs, often times enough lubrication is not produced. Some bodies self-lubricate quite a bit; some don’t at all!  Lubrication will lower the  amount of friction during intercourse, reducing the chances that a barrier method (like a external or internal condom) will tear or that a mucus membrane (like the vagina, penis, or anus) will become irritated.

Even if your body does self-lubricate, it’s great to have a bottle of water-based lube on hand just in case things become dry and uncomfortable.

It’s also good to know that any time someone comes into contact with one or more of the four modes of transmission, they can be at risk of STI (or sexually transmitted infection) transmission.  The four modes of transmission are…

  • Blood
  • Skin to skin contact
  • Sexual fluids (semen and vaginal fluids)
  • Mother to child (breastmilk and vaginal delivery)

In order for someone to contract an STI, they would need to engage in sexual activity with a person who already has an STI in which one or more of these modes would come into play. Although STIs can be common, remember that they are preventable!

STIs can be transmitted through oral sex, anal sex, and vaginal sex. Many people think that with oral sex, there is little to no risk. But the fact is, you can get all STIs (except for pubic lice) when engaging in oral sex with someone who has the infection.

So remember to reduce your risk of STI transmission by using barrier methods and getting tested regularly!

The best thing for you to do is to make an appointment with a medical professional. They will be able to assess your symptoms and help you know for sure what is going on with your body. Teen Clinic offers confidential and low-cost services. Call us to make an appointment! 303-442-5160.

My granddaughter had sex for the first time 5 days ago. She said it hurt. She has had light bleeding since then. How long until the bleeding goes away?…

…She did use a condom.

Your granddaughter is lucky to have someone she can talk to!  Thanks for writing in on her behalf.

Although light bleeding can occur after a person’s first vaginal intercourse, bleeding that continues should be evaluated by a medical professional. Vaginal bleeding is often a sign of infection, whether a sexually transmitted infection or an organic infection, like yeast or bacterial vaginitis.  If she doesn’t already have a gynecologist, consider helping her get to Teen Clinic for a check-up. We offer low-cost and confidential services.

Make sure your granddaughter knows that sex shouldn’t be painful.  The tissue in the vaginal canal is very fragile, and can tear if a person isn’t lubricated enough during intercourse. Choosing a water-based lubricant to use with condoms is a great idea. It’s also important to make sure she is aroused enough for vaginal intercourse. During arousal, blood fills the vaginal tissues, allowing them to expand and lengthen. The body may also self-lubricate, reducing friction  further. If a person experiences pain during intercourse, it’s often a red flag to stop or slow down.

For a more in-depth guide to preventing pain during sex, check out this question.  To make an appointment at Teen Clinic, take a peek at our contact information. Thanks again for being a safe place your granddaughter can go!

Is it normal to queef?

“Queef” is a slang term for vaginal flatulence, which occurs when air gets into the body during arousal, penetration, or even exercise. As the air leaves the body, it can make an embarrassing sound.  However, this is a normal experience common to anyone with a vagina!

During sex, the vaginal canal lengthens and the uterus moves.  This can create extra space for air to collect. Often, people experience vaginal flatulence when the walls of the canal return to their unaroused state. However, it is also possible to experience flatulence from particular exercise positions, as in yoga.

If you have additional questions about vaginal flatulence, consider visiting Teen Clinic to speak with a nurse. You can make an appointment here.

Am I still a virgin?…

…My boyfriend and I tried having sex.  He put it in but I pushed him away after a few minutes.  I didn’t feel it all the way in.  It didn’t hurt me or give me any pleasure. I bled a little but my period had just stopped that day. Am I still a virgin?

Tough question! Virginity is hard to talk about—in part, because it’s so hard to define. Some people define “virginity loss” as having penile-vaginal intercourse for the first time; others include oral or anal sex in this definition, too. Those in same-sex relationships may be sexually active in other ways; what about them? At the end of the day, you’re the only one who can define when you are or aren’t a virgin, and how you feel about it.

At Teen Clinic, we try to talk about specific behaviors rather than concepts like virginity. From the situation you described, it sounds like you had penile-vaginal intercourse. This means it’s time to start a birth control method and make sure you’re preventing STIs. Even if  someone with a penis doesn’t ejaculate inside the vagina, pre-ejaculate may be present, so use a condom every time for the entire activity to prevent unintended pregnancies and infection.

If you’re not sure how you feel about your first experience, consider talking to a trusted adult. You’re welcome to make an appointment at Teen Clinic if you’re not sure where to go.  And keep in mind that not everyone’s first experience is pleasurable; sometimes it takes a little while for partners to discover what each likes and dislikes. The most important thing is to make sure you’re feeling safe and comfortable. Just because you’ve had vaginal intercourse once doesn’t mean you have to again, or that you have to on any given day, or that you have to with this partner. It’s your health. Communicate with your partner how you’re feeling, and don’t feel pressured into anything you’re not ready for. If you do feel ready for intercourse, be sure to take the steps that will keep you safe and healthy.

To learn more about preparing for vaginal intercourse, check out this question.

Is it okay to have sex if you haven’t gotten your period for the first time?

There’s only one person who can tell if you’re ready to have sex:  you! If you’re considering becoming sexually active, spend some time thinking about why sexual activity is right for you. Make sure you’re not feeling pressured by friends or a partner.  Be confident that sex isn’t linked to your self-esteem, and definitely don’t have sex just to “get it over with.”  If you need some guidance, consider talking to a trusted adult or a practitioner at Teen Clinic.

Medically, there’s no reason having intercourse before your first menstruation would harm your body.  However, it’s important to realize that pregnancy is a risk even if you haven’t gotten your period. Choose a reliable birth control method, and use condoms to prevent sexually transmitted infections.  If you’re concerned about your menstruation, make an appointment to talk to a Teen Clinic practitioner. The age when people begin menstruating can vary widely; visiting the clinic can help make sure you’re healthy.

Check out these other questions about having intercourse for the first time.

Sex hurts for me all the sudden but never did before. It hurts kind of like it did the first time. What could that mean?

Pain during intercourse is often a sign of infection. Bacterial vaginosis, overgrowth of yeast, and sexually transmitted infections can all irritate the tissues of the vaginal canal, causing burning or discomfort during sex. In some cases, these tissues may bleed after intercourse.  See a healthcare provider soon to make sure you’re healthy. Remember, all services at Teen Clinic are free or low cost!


The vaginal canal can also become sore after poorly lubricated sexual activity.  Keep plenty of water-based lubricant on hand, especially when you’re using a condom. Some females naturally self-lubricate quite a bit; others may not lubricate enough to avoid discomfort. Remember, reducing the friction during intercourse makes it less likely that vaginal tissues—and condoms!—will tear, lowering your risk for STIs. It’s important to use only water-based lubricants, since oil-based lubes can create holes in a condom.  We keep free samples of lube in the waiting room at Teen Clinic; come grab some!

Lastly, make sure your partner knows when you’re experiencing pain during intercourse! Communicating with your partner is key to keeping sex safe and healthy. If you’re in pain—whether from a position, an infection, or poor lubrication—your partner should know that it’s time to stop.

Is it bad to have sex two times in less than an hour?

Sexual activity is a normal part of human life.  In the same way that people prefer different foods, clothing, and activities, people may also prefer different amounts of sex.  Instead of asking if sex was good or bad, consider whether or not it was healthy. Did both people agree to the sex?  Was there protection against sexually transmitted infections?  Was a birth control method used correctly? Did the activity feel safe and fun for both people?

If the answer to all these questions is yes, it sounds like you’re making healthy sexual decisions!  The amount and type of sex people choose can vary throughout their lives, so don’t worry too much!  However, keep an eye on how your body feels.  If you experience any pain or stress related to the sex, take a break; genitals can be sensitive to lots of activity. See a healthcare provider if you experience bleeding after intercourse, itching, burning, or abnormal discharge.