…..why does it hurt every time I start having sex? The first 2-3 minutes is so painful. Also after 20-25 minutes it starts hurting because of the friction.
Pain during sex can sometimes be a sign that there is not enough lubrication. Lubrication helps to make things more comfortable. It also helps reduce the risk of micro tears ( which are a way STIs are transmitted) and it reduces the risk of condoms breaking!
The vagina and penis self lubricate naturally, but sometimes extra lubrication is needed! If you are using extra lubrication, make sure to use water based lubrication with condoms. Anything with oil in it (lotion, Vaseline, etc) can actually break down the material of the condom. People can buy lubrication over the counter, and lots of health clinics ( like Teen Clinic) give out samples of lubrication for free.
It is also important to have open communication with your partner(s). If something doesn’t feel good or is painful, sexual contact should stop, or it may be a good idea to try a different activity. Make sure to let your partner(s) know what feels good and what does not.
If you continue to have pain, it would be a good idea to see a medical provider. If you want to make an appointment with us you can call us at 303-442-5160